Life Sucks, According to Buddhists

By | September 14th, 2005 | 47 Comments | Religion

The First Noble Truth quite clearly states: Suffering and sorrow are part of life. Everyone everywhere is constantly subject to pain and suffering.

Andrew has advised me to futher my education on this topic before presenting my argument, but I’ve decided that all of your responses might be the best education I can get. Plus I like to spite Andrew.

Okay, here goes. For all my life, I’ve held the Buddhist religion in the highest esteem. In fact, I always felt it would be the first place I would go to if I ever decided to seek out my spirituality. I mean, Buddhists have never once in the entire course of history started a single war, so they have to have something going for them. But in this Religion unit in my World History class, I have come to the realization that the teachings of Buddhism directly contradict many if not most of the philosophies I currently employ to govern my life. Here’s why:

Siddhartha Gautama, while sitting under the famous bodhi tree, came up with four truths of life. They are as follows:

The First Noble Truth quite clearly states: Suffering and sorrow are part of life. Everyone everywhere is constantly subject to pain and suffering.

The Second through Fourth Noble Truths go on to say that all this pain and suffering come from people’s self-centered desires, and the only possible way to escape from all this pain and suffering is to rid oneself of all these desires and spend the remainder of one’s life following the Eightfold path and seeking enlightenment. Then, finally, if you succeed, when you die, you get to escape the pain and suffering and reach a state of nirvana. However, if you fail in your quest for enlightenment, you get reincarnated and have to endure at least another entire lifetime of pain and suffering.

First of all, I find much of this counterintuitive. I mean, as soon as you figure out how to enjoy life, that’s when you get taken away from it? It seems like if you’re enjoying life, you would want to stay in it for a while longer.

Second, I don’t think pain and suffering is a problem. I think you will lead a far better life if you can just accept it, rather than wandering around with a shaved head trying to get rid of it. That’s seriously what you’re supposed to do if you’re really trying to reach enlightenment. In the last part of your life, you’re supposed to get rid of all your possesions, shave your head, and go out wandering, and eat only a grain of rice a day. That sounds like a terrible way to deal with pain if you ask me.

Personally, I don’t lead a painful enough life to have developed my own concrete priciples about dealing with pain. I know the way to get the most out the life I have been given, and those are where my philosophies are based. But the fact that I don’t lead a painful life contradicts the first noble truth. Either that or I’ve reached enlightenment, which I doubt, because I still have the occasional material desire. I don’t think that these desires can take all the blame for causing people pain, it’s natural for humans to want things, and they may or may not be the cause of their sadness.

But what about people who are oppressed? It sounds like Buddhism just tells them to not want to have equal rights as everyone else, and then they can be happy. That, whether or not it is actually what Buddhism teaches, is bullshit. People need to fight for what they believe in, that’s way more important than finding a blissfully ignorant happiness. If Buddhism tells them to just accept that they’re worse than everyone else and not want to be anything better, then I have just lost all respect I ever had for it ever. Someone, please, tell me I’m wrong!!!

 

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11:10 pm on 9/14/2005 1. Jon

Nah I think you have something. Of course you gotta consider to that Buddhism is coming from an Eastern mindset that doesn’t believe in contradictions, at least my understanding of the Eastern mindset; they more accept the philosophy/religion for what it’s worth. It may be a strength, but it’s also a weakness in my opinion. And I think that the whole thing you address of pain under oppression counts. But of course, I approach spiritualism in terms of trying to find the Truth, ultimate Truth I guess, not sort of like whatever would really suit me in my feelings. And coming from that angle, I also see other weaknesses in it like sort of a distance from the reality of other people, it sometimes seems almost like a narcissism to me as opposed to really caring for others and trying to grasp real possibilities that would be taken for granted and ignored. Heh…guess I might be rambling, but at least anyway those are my thoughts. :)

10:37 pm on 9/15/2005 2. don

you should have taken andrew’s advise.

5:26 pm on 9/17/2005 3. Aaron

Aye, you take “pain and suffering” too literally. Think of it more as everyone has some negative force affecting them at any given time. The goal is to be unaffected.

As for “people should fight for what they believe in”… That line just reminds me of 9/11. The hijackers were fighting for what they believed in, and it cost a lot of innocent people (guilty, in their eyes) their lives. People need to stop fighting for shit they believe in and just believe, silently, amongst themselves.

7:59 pm on 9/17/2005 4. Andrew

People need to stop fighting for shit they believe in and just believe, silently, amongst themselves.

Exactly what I was thinking. That was brilliantly worded.

You can go through every modern religion, and find things that, if they were followed to the letter, would bring total destruction upon our race. I can’t think of any outstanding examples, but every religion has them. I haven’t sat down and read any religious texts, so I can’t cite anything specific. I catch snippets all over the place.

A lot of it is ideals. You just live by these notions as best you can. Or keep them in the back of your mind.

Don, I actually disagree. Nella’s writing was open-minded, as I see it. You’ve presented no arguments or ideas to back up your opinion.

Just because you took some notes in world history class doesn’t mean you’re any sort of grand arbitrator of worldly matters

That’s the point I was trying to get across to Nella. When he came out of History class that day, he was abuzz with the topic of “buddhism sucks.” The first thing I told him was to actually talk to a real buddhist, not take the words straight out of a history book as the entire idea of buddism. You should have visited that Buddhist priory at Solano Stroll, they certainly would have schooled you.

Still, I think it t’would be a very good idea to talk to a real Buddhist. Certainly they’d clear up a lot of misconceptions.

10:24 am on 9/18/2005 5. Jon

People need to stop fighting for shit they believe in and just believe, silently, amongst themselves.

Aaron, you’ll have to pardon me, but on this one how can you say that statement broadly and generally? I mean I might as well respond to that statement and ask why, then, do we have politics? why should we help those people in New Orleans? or why should do anything about the lonely or the elderly? If you believe, at least SOME action must be taken.

Or, putting it this way, saying what you say about beliefs generally in response to the 9/11 hijackers can also be said of helping and giving to the poor who suffered from Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. To believe silently amongst yourselves in any type of belief can be almost hypocritcal when taking in factors like this, what Kierkegaard would call objectivity and thought over action, publicity and advertising to reality. Even logically, it doesn’t connect or make sense.

Maybe the question or statement should be which actions should be taken for a problem or circumstance, which action is right and which action is not for the circumstances or universally. And all this can only be in the assumption that there’s a right and a wrong, which I guess we already would agree to some extent on if we call what happened with 9/11 bad and “wrong.”

9:42 pm on 9/18/2005 6. Nella

So what Aaron and Andrew are saying is that equity is overrated and people who are being treated unfairly should just take one for the team.

Yeah…Whatever…

Concerning 9/11, those terrorists may have just been fighting for what they believe in, but they were doing it in a violent and ultimately uneffective way. Killing thousands of people won’t prove your point, all it will prove is that you’re willing to disregard human life just to try to prove your point. Just because something is done the wrong way doesn’t mean something shouldn’t be done.

What if Rosa Parks was a Buddhist? Then when she was asked to move to the back of the bus she would have done it without question and African-American children would still be going to different schools than us. They would be happy, but would they, really? I think that Buddhism just teaches you to trick yourself into being happy. If we were all Buddhist, why would any of us vote?

Again, this is all from someone who leads an utterly painless life, but I believe in standing up for oneself. If you’re rights are imposed upon, do something about it! Don’t just lie down and let others walk all over you.

2:29 pm on 9/19/2005 7. don

This is why it’s very difficult to discuss topics about religion. All hell breaks loose. Everything is subject to each and everyone’s interpretation.

Super Dave’s last statement is quite amusing. ;)

7:44 pm on 9/19/2005 8. Andrew

but they were doing it in a violent and ultimately uneffective way

!! That was pretty much the most effective method ever conceived. They got the attention of the entire world, they brought in thousands of new recruits, wiped out 3,000 of their mortal enemies, and all at a cost of 17 of their own. Something like that, at least. I don’t mean to commend them at all, I just can’t see how you view that as “uneffective.”

Don, that’s the beauty of discussion. You act as if this is a bad thing.. :)

Ehh, I think you’re right Jon. That was a bit short-sighted of me.

10:39 pm on 9/19/2005 9. don

No, I don’t think it’s a bad thing and I didn’t mean to make it sound that way. I just think that with all the problems right now, everyone is jittery and ultra-sensitive. Even an innocent drawing on a product of Burger King was conceived as offensive.

I enjoy the kinds of discussions where people can be level-headed and open-minded. When people start taking offense on certain topics, or when some people start becoming rudely offensive with their statements, conflicts arise.

My 2 cents.

8:21 am on 9/20/2005 10. Jon

I hope I didn’t sound that way. :) I’m with you on that.

9:31 am on 9/20/2005 11. Dave

I think what I lot of westernized people fail to realize is that there are so many things in life that we are completely powerless against. And it is the attempted actions against things like this that cause much pain and suffering to the people on both sides. Nella said:

Personally, I don’t lead a painful enough life

I got news for you; life is full of pain and to say you don’t experience any makes me wonder if you have reached a level of numbness that you fail to really live at all.

7:13 pm on 9/20/2005 12. Jackie

Either that or we’re just lucky ducks. I’d say that I’m in the same boat as Ian as for not feeling much pain. Maybe I just haven’t gotten old enough yet, but I believe that this is really due to the good fortune I have being born into my family. Pain is in no way evenly distributed, and sometimes I feel I have no right to complain about ANYTHING because I am so much better off than so many people. —And I’m definitely not complaining about it!!!—

Buddhism does seem like an incredibly self-centric religion, and I believe that we should not only care of easing our own pain but also the pain of others, especially those of us who are not dealt the major burden of the pain. Now the task is to figure out how to do this without bringing too much pain upon ourselves…

10:38 pm on 9/20/2005 13. Nella

It’s interesting, because I wasn’t thinking of this when I posted, but I have recently come to the realization that I truly enjoy what few painful experiences happen to fall upon me. Maybe enjoy isn’t quite the right word, but I certainly face them with complete content. Maybe it’s because real heartbreaks happen so scarcely for me that I relish the feeling just because it’s a strong feeling, and I am oblivious to whether it is good or bad. Maybe it’s because I know that I’ll be able to pick myself up again once it’s over, and that knowledge is comforting.

Again, I’m sure that this symptom is entirely due to the fact that so little pain occurs in my life, and if I had much more I imagine I would develop a fair distaste for the feeling.

I’ve called myself atheistic before, but I don’t think that’s entirely true. Agnostic is a little closer, but it still doesn’t quite hit the mark. It’s institutionalized religion that I’m against, not the notion of God. The spirituality and philosophy of religion holds and always has held some merit in my book. Even with my ever growing knowledge of this universe around us, I have always felt that the human mind holds something more than science can or will ever be able to explain.

When I break it down of course, I realize that this notion all comes from the same instincts that cause people to start religion thousands of years ago…

5:09 am on 9/21/2005 14. Aaron

Helping people in New Orleans isn’t “fighting for what they believe in”, it’s just doing the right thing. Going on crusades to kill well-intentioned strangers in other countries is “fighting for what they believe in”, and it’s absolutely moronic.

10:38 am on 9/21/2005 15. Crow

Well, the Four Noble Truths (FNT) are just the beginning. No one makes you go out and shave your head or give up things you enjoy. Ever see the Dalai Lama? He’s one seriously happy dude.

The real value in the FNT is that they provide you with an insight into what everybody’s psychological problems are. Just consider that this deep pyschological insight occur 2000 years before a similar conclusion is reached in the West with the found of psychoanalysis.

Anyway, following the Eightfold path is ONE way, not the only way, to live. Even Buddha said to “work out your salvation diligently.” If it works for you and you’re not hurting anyone, then you’re on the right track.

4:33 pm on 9/22/2005 16. Jon

Aaron, I’ll agree there in just killing many innocent people and “fighting for what you believe in.” Obviously, in my opinion, that was seriously screwed, and anything like that (Crusades, as an e.g.) is wrong.

I think it just would have helped if you clarified the “fighting for what you believe in” part of your response and if you put into context just believing silently.

6:44 am on 9/23/2005 17. Sean

Buddhism sort of shoots itself in the foot with the truths. :)

Suffering is part of life (1) but it’s also something we can rid ourselves of (3,4).

The important part on which to focus (I believe) is Truth #2: Life sucks because we want things and we don’t always get them. In the end, every morsel of pain and suffering boils down to a form of disappointment. Standard Buddhism would say “don’t get attached to things” as a goal for the relief of this pain, but even that’s still something to shoot for, which can lead to disappointment.

For me, Buddhism (Zen, in particular) is less a matter of detachment and more a matter of finding joy. Suffering isn’t dismissed, it’s quenched in the raw happiness that is uncovered every day, in every thing I see and do. I’m too busy being happy to suffer. Having kids helped a lot in this regard. :)

The message to take home from Buddhism isn’t that life sucks. It’s that despite the grind of life, a multitude of joys await so long as you’re willing to look for them.

11:33 pm on 9/29/2005 18. cflee

You could also take a look at King Asoka/Ashoka, of the Maurya dynasty. It would be interesting to learn about the influence Buddhism had on him after he converted after his conquest of Kalinga…

7:28 pm on 10/10/2005 19. Ruby

The second noble truth is not that you must obsess over pain suffering for the rest of your life! Briefly it goes like this:

1. Life is inherently full of suffering.
2. Suffering is caused by greed, ignorance and fear.
3. Suffering can be alleviated.
4. The way to alleviate it is via the 8-fold path (right action, right speech, rigth livelihood, etc.)

Regarding your comment about enjoying your pain. This isn’t neccesarily bad. It’s OK to feel the full range of emotions, it’s not so good to crave or need these experiences. You might be interested in reading Pema Chodron, she’s a great teacher and deals with similar topics.

I think you are on the right path, Nella. The Buddha himself would want you to question these ideas just as you have. Don’t give up, just keep learning and challenging yourself. Eventually you will find your own unique relationship with Buddhism and I think you will find it helpful in leading a happier and more fulfilling life.

10:36 am on 10/17/2005 20. Sadi

Buddhist ideas are often misunderstood. As I understand the four noble truths they first simply represent the process you go through when something goes wrong. First you understand and accept something is wrong. This is not to be overlooked. Second you try to understand how you got there. Third you aim to the end of the problem, you spot the exit door. And fourth you find how to get out and you go.

The first noble truth gives the whole taint of the process. You first must face your problems and your sufferings. Reconize them, dig them, understand them. You get to know yourself better, understanding both what your problems are and how you try to hide from them. It’s a matter of reintegrating yourself as a whole: A person with sufferings -included-.

If you got this right you’re close to loving your suffering because it shows you what you did wrong. You may not want to get rid of it but dig it deeper. The whole pointe is here: not wanting to get rid of it too quickly, which would be like trying to escape, trying to hide, again. Instead you analyse the causes and you find that, surprisingly, they exist.

The third noble truth states that you can get rid of suffering and you realize it’s true. If you can eliminate the causes you’re about to limit future suffering. It’s not like you clap your hands and every problem, future and past, disappears, but more like learning from fully integrated experience lived without fear or repression. I guess that for eliminating absolutely all suffering you need to go much deeper in studying the concept of self and many other things buddhism teaches. By the way, you can do something, you know that, and

Fourth, you go there applying some discipline where you need it. Be it the eightfold path or anything else does not matter much if you ask me. If you get there you should know what medecine you need for what problem.

What I find intersting with buddhism is it’s a good basis you can build your own path on. It gives you the basic structure, and as a buddhist would say, the rest is a reflection of your own mind ;-)

I hope my english gets the message through…

5:49 am on 1/13/2006 21. Glenn

Re: Life Sucks, According To Buddhists

Dear Nella,

May I say that I am a student of Buddhism and that I am not an Enlightened Teacher of Buddhism. However, I had the privilege of training under an Enlightened Teacher for about fifteen years. Sadly, my Teacher passed away in the summer of 2004.

My Teacher was a Theravada Buddhist and a Very Senior Meditation Master. He taught Buddhism all around the world.

Once, on a retreat, someone asked my Teacher if there was more to life than suffering, and living miserably and finally dying in the hope of going to Nirvana.

My Teacher smiled, then replied that Asian people do not seek to get into the fast lane to disappear into Nirvana, in one life time. Firstly, they try to live a beautiful life, here on Earth. They use their meditation to develop their skills so that they may live their life like a work of Art. Or, to put it another way, Buddhist Meditation may prepare one for The Art of Living.

The First Noble Truth is Dukkha. Unfortunately, there is no satisfactory translation for Dukkha into English. Basically, it means that all of your life experiences (positive, negative, neutral) are unsatisfactory because they are impermanent.
The Second Noble Truth is Tanha. It means Craving for Life. Unfortunately Life is impermanent. All beings are subject to birth, old age, sickness and death, rebirth.
The First Two Noble Truths are a Disease that all beings suffer from. This is totally different from the kind of diseases that your family doctor might treat. Even healthy people are suffering from this Disease.
The Third and Fourth Noble Truths represent the cure for the Disease.
The Third Noble Truth is Nirodha. Nirodha is The Truth that there is an end to The Suffering caused by The Disease. It makes the “Journey” of The Fourth Noble Truth Worthwhile and possible. It is the Terminus of The Noble Eightfold Path.

The Fourth Noble Truth is The Noble Eightfold Path

Wisdom 3
Right Understanding
Right Thought

Morality 1
Right Speech
Right Action
Right Livelihood

Concentration 2
Right Effort
Right Mindfulness
Right Concentration

Buddhist Meditation is called Insight Meditation. Insight is Intuitional Knowledge as opposed to Rational Knowledge that may be derived from Logic. In Western Psychology, the Mind is in the Brain. In Buddhist Psychology the Mind is in the Heart and The Brain is The Seat of The Intellect. The Buddha taught that Insight is more subtle than Logic and differentiated Intuitional Knowledge from Intellectual Knowledge in this way: Intuition leads to Knowledge of Realities
Intellect Leads to Knowledge of Concepts
However, this does not mean that Buddhists disdain intellectual knowledge; far from it. Buddhist Logic is perfect. It is also quite different from Western Logic. This does not mean that Western Logic is imperfect, just different.

Buddhists balance their development of Intuition with Loving Kindness Meditation (Metta Meditation). Metta means Universal Love. It is different from Personal Love. We experience Personal Love when we are in a relationship with someone. Metta Love is a very powerful source of energy that goes out across the Universe, literally.

The Buddha’s Teaching on Universal Love is called The Metta Sutta:

“He who is skilled in good and who wishes to attain that calm state
(Nirvana) should act thus:
“He should be able, upright, perfectly upright, of noble speech, gentle
and humble.

Contented, easily supportable, with few duties, of simple livelihood,
with senses calmed, discreet, not impudent, he should not be greedily
attached to families.

He should not pursue the slightest thing that other wise men
might censure him. May all beings be happy and secure,
may their hearts be wholesome.

Whatever living beings there be: weak or strong, tall, stout
or medium, short, small or large, without exception; seen
or unseen, those dwelling far or near, those who are born
or those who are to be born, may all beings be happy.

Let none deceive another, nor despise any person
whatsoever in any place. Let him not wish harm to
another out of anger or ill-will.

Just as a mother would protect her only child at
the risk of her own life, even so, let him cultivate
a boundless heart to all beings.

Let his thoughts of boundless love pervade the
whole world: above, below and across without
any obstruction, without any hatred, without
any enmity.

Whether he stands, walks, sits or lies down, as
Long as he is awake, he should develop this
Mindfulness. This they say is the noblest
Living here.

Not falling into wrong views, being virtuous
And endowed with insight, by discarding
Attachment to sense desires, never again
Is he reborn.

Pleas note: whilst the Metta Sutta uses “He” it is worth noting that men and women are equal in Buddhist meditation. 500 years before the birth of Jesus Christ, the Buddha ordained women into The Sangha on the ground that they were just as capable as men of becoming enlightened.

Whilst it is true that Buddhism advises you to accept yourself as you really are, it teaches you the skilful means to change your life for the better. Fate does not exist in Buddhism; there is Karma. You must accept your Karma. However, with Buddhist Teaching you can change your Karma. This ability to change Karma is what makes the journey to Nirvana possible.

There are two kinds of practice in Buddhism.
Those who renounce the worldly life to become Monks or Nuns.
Those who choose to stay in the world as Householders.
Monks and Nuns do not work and are celibate.
Householders may work, marry, have families
And live with some of the material necessities of life.

Sometime during the Nineties, my Teacher attended a World Buddhist Council in Japan. During this Council it was agreed that Buddhists all over the world should work for the Elimination of War in The Twenty-First Century.

Buddhism is a faith of practice. In order to practice, you need a bone-fide Teacher. I can recommend The Theravada School of Buddhism. There may be one in your area. I found one in my own area by contacting my local library. But, please note, if someone wants to charge you money for Buddhist Teaching, walk away. Genuine Buddhists do not charge for the Teaching. However, you may make charitable donations called Dana.

Yours sincerely,

Glenn

4:12 pm on 4/21/2006 22. Martin

“People need to fight for what they believe in, that’s way more important than finding a blissfully ignorant happiness.”

Quote of the century.

Best advice i can give people, is sit back, think, contemplate, test the waters, try things out, take a dive, go for it, share it with people. But don’t be an idiot, use your common sense.

7:04 pm on 5/29/2006 23. Brian

“You’re just left with yourself all the time, whatever you do anyway. You’ve got to get down to your own God in your own temple. It’s all down to you, mate.”
-John Lennon

3:47 pm on 6/16/2006 24. Jennifer

I am a cheese danish.

8:03 pm on 8/26/2006 25. Unknown

I never really believed in any religion. But I do appreciate some teachings every religion has. I live by the rules in which I’ve applied and works for me. My girlfriend is a Buddhist. We have been together almost 2 years. I felt like the luckiest guy alive, and everyone we encountered envied the relationship we had. It was flattering, and I was truly happy. She left to Vietnam and India for a month. I was anxious to see her again and give her a big hug. Then 1 week before she came back, her sister called me and told me she became a nun. I was speechless, feeling sad and happy at the same time. I went to pick her up from the airport last night, and again I was speechless, happy and sad finally getting to see her. She wore a yellow robe, and had her hair completely shaved. I’m glad that her older sister had called me a week in advanced. Because if she had not, I knew that I was going to cry in the car. I’d cry because everything was so sudden. I felt like my girlfriend had never came back from Vietnam. I continued to stay strong for her. I’m happy that she has found happy, but it’s painful at the same time because I felt like my relationship had broken up without me having a chance to say goodbye. It was awkward because I didn’t know what to call her. I usually called her huni, and never by her real name. It’s a strange feeling when everything is so sudden. I know it’s going to take a very long time for me to grasp all of this. Later I found out that she shaved her head and became a nun on the day of our 2 years anniversary, August 15.

I know that this blog has nothing to do with this blog topic, but I needed to get something out. And if any of you are in a relationship, cherish her or him and all those wonderful moments, because nothing is for certain, and change can be sooner than you expected.

10:04 pm on 9/6/2006 26. R. E. Nixon

Hhhmm . . . Buddhism just states the self-evident truth: attachment cause suffering. If you care about nothing, you can’t be hurt.

This isn’t necessarily the only path; but true nevertheless.

2:39 pm on 9/9/2006 27. vicky

we’re all criticizing a strawman…how do we really know what is said about the buddha is actually true? the buddha never wrote anything…you’re talking about a man who lived over a thousand year ago…we’re all arm chair philosophers…much like the buddha was himself…just live your life and forget all this mumbo jumbo…useless! waste of time! here’s what you need to remember: 1. be good to yourself 2. treat others the way you want to be treated in front of them or behind their backs 3. earn your living, don’t mooch off others and society 4. don’t waste your precious time speculating…if you want to really learn something about life and nature, become a scientist and figure it all our yourself…don’t just form opinions

9:45 pm on 9/13/2006 28. denny

To enter into the rhelm of spituality embodies the very practice of letting go. One must detach himself from the chains of this prison we call life in order to find totality. It is the very things we do every day that hold us back from our birth-right. We must stand apart from man to see man. It is in the letting go that we gain everything.
Peace

10:40 pm on 9/14/2006 29. Unknown

I am the commentor 26. Yes my girlfriend became a Buddhist nun, and since there has been some time between then and now, I would like to state my present situation.

Looking back at old pictures, reading old emails and letter, I was longing for her. However, in sorrow, I was reading an article, and it stated that “all suffering is caused by ‘self’.” What it means is that our ego, self, the idea of “I” was the reason for our suffering. When my GF became a nun, what was the real reason I was feeling pain? What was causing all this anxiety? It was because I was thinking about myself, because I was selfish, because I wanted to satisfy myself. It was until I understood the cause of my pain that I felt a lot better, because I could then somhow control my reactions by controling my perspective. My girlfriend gave up everything, her friends, her 4.0 GPA at a UC, a promising career, and her relationship with me, to dedicate her life to something greater and probably most selfishless I could think of.

Buddhism to me is a philosophy. Authentic monks and nuns are the teachers, and temples are the school. They teach people how to live in peace and harmony within and with others. To do so, one must let go of one’s self and attachments. It is then that a person mind can be free as he or she have nothing that holds them back from anything.

5:29 pm on 9/24/2006 30. Anonymous

we’re all gonna die

5:22 pm on 10/9/2006 31. Anonymous

fuck you

1:07 am on 11/25/2006 32. kman

u guys forgot two main things lord Buddha said !!!!!

1. “u must choose the middle path”, so don’t try to be extremely happy neither be an idiot and think there is no happiness in life. know the truth u were born alone u will die alone in between u live, and live u must knowing tht nothing is permanent only impermanent is permanent

2buddha also said “not to believe, cos someone else told it, cos it felt right,cos it is handed down from generations, cos it is the most accepted or popular thing !!! but only to believe after carefully thinking and analyzing it. and only when you, ur self realize and agree then follow the Buddha’s path”

now tht for me made sense !!!!!

11:28 pm on 12/30/2006 33. TJ

Whatever we believe, say or do, there is no right nor wrong, only consequences. No winners nor losers, only learners of the consequences of the whatevers.

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10:59 am on 1/11/2007 38. David Elton

‘The fear of change’ Self help for when life sucks!

We all do things we know are not right. for me it’s simple:

People change when the fear of change finally becomes less than the fear of doing the same thing.

Want it another way?:

People change when the pain of doing the same thing becomes more than the pain of changing.

10:53 am on 1/17/2007 39. [3!]conos

Very interesting.

7:27 pm on 3/8/2007 40. denny

The way is unbending, so we must bend. We are not to conform; but must be part of the way. It is truth and it is pure. The way is just beyond our ego, and a step further than our will. It must be our diet, we must feast of it’s fruits.

9:12 pm on 6/11/2007 41. Mile

man i agree with u, live life like u should and thats it, be happy deal with the shit u brought on urself

1:13 am on 7/9/2007 42. Oyun indir

Very interesting. thanks

4:18 pm on 7/9/2007 43. Denny

To walk with Jesus takes the courage of a thousand men, but the innocence of a child. He had a vision for us to live without the constraints of man. To live free and give thanks to GOD. Is it in your heart to live as though you were choosen. We all must fight till we are drenched in the blood of our own suffering. Defend your keep,do it now and give your glory to God.

6:36 am on 10/17/2007 44. Rodney

Dear Nella,

After reading what you learned in your religion survey course, I can see why you think Buddhism sucks. The description of Buddhism you were taught is one commonly taught by non-Buddhists. Here is something simpler and, I believe, closer to the simple, functional spirit of Buddhism:

Sometimes your life sucks, and it might be to your advantage to notice when your life sucks and stop doing those things that make it so uncomfortable.

Sometimes your life is good, and it might be to your advantage to notice when life is good and do more of those things that bring you joy.

Don’t imagine for one second that you will always feel bad or always feel good, because one thing we know about living in this world is that things change.

That’s it. Sometimes life sucks, and there are reasons it sucks. Sometimes life is good, and there are reasons life is good. Either way, don’t get TOO attached or you will make yourself miserable.

Does that explanation or philosophy sound like something you can use every day?

9:11 am on 2/10/2008 45. Anonymous

what about all that meditation. Sitting on the grass thinking about the veins on a leaf does JACK CRAP. You still are fat, miserable, or whatever you were, you just have managed to blow 3 hours trying to “empty your mind”. Frankly, that is the exact opposite of what you should be doing… USING YOUR FREAKING MIND TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM.